Life is tough man, you're doing your best to save your M, and it's disheartening to not see the R not move forward. For now, maybe you should take a break, focus on the your sons and the holidays and give yourself a break from the worry and wonder.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized