One thing my mlcer shared with me (and it might shed some light to you) was the " i love you but i' m not in love with you.. I know i care about you... you are my best friend.. i do love you... i think i love you but not in that way..more like a sister. I would still die for you.. blah blah blah..
They are confused and constantly change their mind on the role you play in their life. From lover to friend to the one to blame.. it' s insanity!!
I refuse to play the game. My ex-h is the father of my kids and was my life partner. By leaving me and the children, i do not see him as a lover, brother, friend.. heck, i am not a masochist.. a barely see him as a dad. Our children are not a priority to him.
Take a few step back.. make it clear to her of the role you have in her life and let her figure it out. But keep in mind that she will change her mind often. Atick to your role.
Stay strong and make this Christmas about seeing the spark and excitement in your kid's eyes. Put her aside for awhile. You need to refuel!
