I certainly don't have anything to add here. Artista, Ginger, Sandi et al. have all laid it out for you.
All I am going to say is that you have shown incredible patience through this recent bout of rebelliousness from her.
The necklace, leaving the phone, getting dolled up and going out, the earrings - I am sorry man, but all of this adds up to at least her trying to maintain appearances and at worst, she's with OM.
I think it's time to throw down the gauntlet. You've given her patience and time and everything, but now it's time for tough tough barbed wire love. Basically, either she's 'in' or 'out'. And if she's 'out', I would highly highly suggest you physically separate. You need to take back control and bring out your own self-respect.
Sorry man! I was hoping that all those things were one-off, but the list keeps growing and that's not good.
