New LBS dealing with WW Part 2

[Joe2017]

Thanks V.

I am being as supportive as possible but I also know that in order for my step kid to get what he needs from his mother right now she will have to be snapped back to reality. We will be spending a lot of time away from the house with the holidays now.

I have weeks to basically detach and get my mind right. She can parent her boy or not, but I will not be enabling her party lifestyle right now. It sounds harsh but so is real life. One day he will understand.

I have time on my side. Divorces do not happen overnight, in a few weeks, or even months. If the worst thing possible happens and I end up getting a divorce after all, well. That was going to be the outcome after all.

She has noticed my GAL every step of the way. She has commented very often about it, and I just shrug it off. So the consistency I've shown has been pretty solid.

I know I will win her over one day, probably after I completely detach and stop caring about what she says or thinks or maybe even after I'm over her. We'll see.

She already knows she is making a boneheaded move. She has openly stated that it doesn't make sense at all, but her mind is still made up. She's a really stubborn one by nature, so that's to be expected. She is a lot like a child throwing a tantrum right now so I just have to continue treating her like I did my boys when they were little, and having fits.

Ignore the bullcrap. Let them have a tantrum, but ignore. When they're done with it, then the real work can begin. But never during the tantrum because no matter what you say it will be wrong. I have to detach, ignore, and wait. Otherwise I'm wasting my breath talking.