Any other ideas on what behaviors I should expect from her or words I would want to hear from her to be able to believe that she is committed to a degree necessary to give us a realistic shot at success in reconciling?
when i approached my husband about reconciliation, i did it on my own... he did not persuade me... he did not talk with me about it... we had been physically separated for two + years... i called him, i came to him... and i asked him if he would consider reconciliation... he thought i was going to tell him i was ready to go through with divorce... i didn't come to him as though i deserved anything from him... i didn't play with words... i didn't leave loop holes... i didn't leave any ways out... and he would not have accepted anything less from me... there was no wiggle room... if you offer your wife any wiggle room, she will take it... if she comes to you with wiggle room (non-committal language) she is not sincere...
