Husband gone for second time - new here

[Cherry]

V has given some amazing advise ^^ listen, take it in. This is a tough lengthy process, but the heart and soul of it needs to be you. I know, as a mom to a young kid- you just want to protect and put them first, which is great. BUT, you also need to take care of you in order to be good for your daughter.

What was it that initially attracted your H to you? What kind of a girl were you then? Did you have any particular hobbies or interests that made you feel good? Tap into those thoughts, not for the sake of trying to turn his head, but your own sanity. It might seem a little superficial, but i was always well kept, groomed, polished and well dressed. I didn’t totally let that slide, but now I’m enjoying the freedom of choosing clothes and buying purchases i would have felt guilty doing in my M. A few new pieces to boost my confidence and make me feel good are money well spent in my opinion.

WRT taking your daughter out, and seeing all the happy couples- i know your pain. I’m sure we all do. But it’s that time of year everyone looks all dreamy, i think they also seem magnified when we are going through this process. This will pass, I’m not personally at that stage it doesn’t bother me at all, but the pain is by far less. Enjoy the moment, you have been blessed with a child, there’s some really lonely people out there that are completely alone. You’ve got a beautiful little girl looking up to her mama, and she will be proud of you.

The dating and feeling like you’ll be alone forever is also hard. But try not to worry about something you cannot control. You never know what lies in your future, maybe it will be one were you h pulls his head out of his a$$ and reconnects, or maybe someone else will come along and cherish you and then the whole past will make sense to you.

Don’t get me wrong, i know this is easier said than done. Every thought in your head i have already thought. But take things in baby steps and work on some short term goals that you can manage. And work on you, put the time into yourself, and believe you are worth it. You’re not ready for the scrap heap my darling, you have a lot to offer any man. But you have to believe that yourself and know that you are worth so much more than he is currently valuing you at. Next time he’s over, turn up the confidence and see how he reacts. It may be fake it until you make it, but even faking some confidence helps you feel that you’re the one in the driving seat.