Husband gone for second time - new here

[Jim1234]

The hopelessness and despair you're feeling right now is very normal. If you lost a close relative, you'd give yourself the luxury of mourning them, wouldn't you? The way I figure it, I needed time to mourn the death of my marriage. It will take a while. But things will get better.

You despair of finding a husband, or even a man you're interested in.... stop that right now. Do you know what men find attractive? Ok, besides the obvious, it's confidence, just like what women find attractive in men. It may take a while to get it back, but you will.

You want a conservative man? Preferably Middle Eastern? I'm sure there are plenty of them around, or at least men with the same values, but you may have to look. Maybe you'll have to look hard. Look where they are... churches, mosques....clubs online for conservative Muslim men..... And until then? If you like, date. Date lots of different men. If they pressure you do something you're not comfortable with, they're dicks. Uber home and move on to the next one. Of course, vet them carefully, meet them in public, and carry mace.....

And honestly, if you would prefer stability over love, maybe that's the solution for you. I wouldn't, but that's me.

You are going through the worst of it right now, and I'm sorry. The time of year doesn't make it easier. But things will get better.