Believe me that I wish this wasn't happening but she wants out and I don't want to waste anymore energy trying to stop this. This doesn't mean I gave up DB'ing I just needed to move on and make my life better for my own sanity.
That's good, I think that's the place most of us get when we finally drop the rope. We're not saying the door is locked but we're saying we're not going to stand there with the door cracked open peeking out. We're closing the door and she has to knock if she wants back in.
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For the first few months post BD and telling the kids I was doing this and didn't realize it until my s17 called me out. Since then I have been a model citizen, this is the hardest to do because of what she has done to me but I really don't care anymore, all this did was hold me back and keep me stuck. When we told the kids that was the only time I said anything regarding our situation, I told them that I didn't want the divorce and that was it, I have and never will tell them what their mom did but I have a feeling my boys already know. That is something W will need to deal with, I will not engage in those discussions.
This is great stuff too. Perfect. And you are quite right, if the boys don't know now they will at some point and that's your W's mess to sort.
Great job Dusty, sounds like you are handling things really well! I mean I know it's still crap to go through, but your inner strength is really shining through and that's what's important.
