Sorry for not responding in a timely fashion, I was out of town with my S17 for a tournament. Had a great time but missed my other two! I also had to go back through and re-read your posts this morning as the part of my state that I was in literly had zero cell service.
With that, you can't nor do you ever want to control what you spouse does, your H clearly wants some time and space and you are giving it to him, let him sit out there all by himself and think about what he wants as you do your GAL and be there for your boys! I can't tell you to file for D or not, in hindsight I probably should have as my W was and is in an affair that she won't stop or can't, not my concern at this point. But the reason I didn't file was I wanted my kids to know I never gave up, I wanted them to know I didn't want the divorce. I have been there for them always, my wife has checked out with them as well so I have become the constant calm that my kids need especially at this time of year.
Am I stuck in limbo? Currently I am but she will be moving out in 4 days, yes it's a couple days before Xmas but I feel this is the only thing holding me back from fully detaching. The only thing you can control right now is what you do! I'm sorry that any of us are in this situation, it [censored] but keep up what you're doing, it does get easier to deal with the day to day roller coaster ride from hell!
