Sara, that is so great about your daughter. You must be proud! Currently I take my daughter to a church but may switch to a mosque when we move so I hope my daughter can follow your daughter's footsteps.
That's really unfair you need to have surgery as a result of your husband's actions. I hope it's a minor procedure and you're already recovering and feeling much better by the time you read this. With medical procedures it's better to get them over with ASAP. I can relate to how your husband deals with your need of comfort after a procedure. My husband in the past few years is annoyed and angry when anything is wrong with me. I was so scared to get an endoscopy in October because I had to go under anesthesia and my husband refused to even take off work that morning and I had no one available to come with me. I drove there alone and had to wait there until my husband had 20 minutes to leave work, pick me up, and drop me off at home. There was no kindness, no sympathy. Even with the diagnosis I received he had no reaction whatsoever. I hope though in your case your husband is better than that and you can accept his limitations without letting them get in the way of other progress.
I hope everything is going better than expected. It's so hard to be a mom and need any kind of medical treatment but if you're a physician at least hopefully you're treated extra well by the physician who's doing the procedure. I hope you'll post how it went when you're back online!
