Separation imminent (cont.)

[DonH]

As I often do, I agree with ginger and may be actually saying the same thing she is but I have a different take...

As I read your latest posts I can't help but feel it seems like an actor prepping for a role in a play or sitcom. This is how you will act. This is how you want to appear to the audience. It's almost like role playing rather than authentically living your life.

That first impression was followed by my feeling like you are strategizing a game - perhaps a football,or basketball team. You'll try man to man coverage for a while but if that doesn't seem to be stopping the other team from scoring you'll drop back to a zone defense as a last resort.

Hermes, this is not an act in a play or a game. Rather than authentically living your life you seem to be acting and strategizing what will work. What will get her to react like you want. Rather than telling the truth because the truth is the correct way to live, you only want to do what will provoke the best response from W. If telling the truth won't get you what you want then to hell with the truth.

Can you see what I'm trying to explain? Can others here see it or am I off on this? I just think that if it seems fake to me, your W must be so seeing through all of this. I'm not sure you are in a place to be authentic which then makes Gs STFU suggestion perhaps the best advice for you at this point. You're not ready tomDB yet. You can't fake your way through this so perhaps damage control is your best option. Focus on YOU and not doing what you think W wants or what role play might get you through this because even if that would work, it won't last until these actions come naturally from you and are not an act or this weeks strategy.