Hi Huddy , good to see you post. You have been at the this for quite a while now and you have read enough on here to know that what ever ' stage ' your W is in doesnt really matter.
She has chosen a path and as we all know that's her choice. I think they do have some regrets but who knows for sure. I think this is why this site offers the advice it does about moving forward and focusing on your life. Like your wife you have choices and if you choose to wait and see if she changes her path then all good.
We all take different amounts of time to deal with our sitches and we deal in different ways.
It's one thing to know what you need to do , another thing to do it , posting on here you sometimes get the 2 x 4s and its not nice but maybe they do help.
Anyway , great to see you post and have a great Xmas.