What you wrote about healing organically from the anger really resonated with me. This idea that we can't really force ourselves to forgive before we are ready really helped me. We are much better offer accepting the anger, feeling it and processing it than skimming over it.

I wish you safe travels. And like Job said, I thank you for all the advice you've always given me.

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced