H....I tried having the talks early on as everyone did but every time I initiated she got more and more upset. I never got any awnsers to the questions I had on why she was doing this. They were really just a bunch of excuses. There is nothing you can do or say that will stop this train from leaving the station. It will be a year if not longer before you probably have any shot at recon. She is just not going to wake up 1 morning and have a ah ha moment.
At this point in time you just need to take care of yourself, your children and stand for what you believe in.
I am 12 days away from 7 months and I can remember it like it was yesterday. She wanted a D then she didn't, then she did, then she wanted to move out. My mind was spinning.. I watched her pack her things, ask me if she could take certain things and watch her be soo excited about moving out and decorating her new place. There was nothing I could do.
Almost 7 months in to my sitch and my W has finally started to be more human to me, be more talkative, be more open, I don't see the same level of hate/contempt.
GAL your ass off, read self-help books, listen to podcasts, motivational music, get some new clothes, do anything to help yourself feel better but do it for yourself because she will probably not notice. I have people tell me they have no idea that this is me, people comment right in front of her face about how good I look and these people have flat out asked her to her face what she thinks and she can barely muster up any acknowledgement or act like she even notices. Even more reason why you need to do it for yourself.
