Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 4 )

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I just read the post by Maximus twice...the short response is I have conflicting advice from the DB coaches vs what is recommended on these forums. The one common advice is GAL.

The DB coaches recommend not causing conflicts, treating my W as a house guest, and not telling anyone else what is going on with my W, me, or my BIL. They also recommend spending as much time together as a family as I can.

With that advice, the only way to exclude my W from family events would be to tell my family what is going on ... directly conflicting the DB coach advice.

My W refuses to leave...she has flat out said she hates me but she said she will not break up the family or leave.

My sister has confronted my wife. I talked to my sister after and she would not tell me what she said.

The grad school is an example of my W cake eating...she decided to start the program after BD...and it is costing us $10k/year...money she would not have without me.