Thank you Gordie, I stick around after all these years hoping I can help someone. I feel like I have seen so much on these boards and I am almost always right on how these things play out.
Truth be told, I have a soft spot for you, Gordie! I have a real soft spot on these boards for stand-up guys being treated like sh!t or toys, or even options. Probably because all I wanted in life was a decent husband and great father to my kids. I can not for the life of me figure out why someone in their right mind would give that up for a thrill. (it's probably because they aren't in their right mind) I may think differently because my longest R was 9 years and that was with my exH and since the separation, I have dated, but my longest R has been 6 months. But the way I look at it now, stability, understanding, honesty, and love IS the thrill for me! but I digress, enough about me.
I really think we should get Team Gordie shirts made! I know this is an awful time of the year and I know many would have caved to their WAS saying "ILY" and trying to have sex with them, and YOU DIDN'T!!!! That is super hero status. You didn't because you don't want it. You don't want to feel used. Because you know you are the ONLY choice, and not an option.
You resolve is because of the man you are becoming and the DBing work you have done. YOu value yourself. It's a wonderful thing.
