A big difference from what was recommended to me by the db counselors from the people on these boards was this...
That you should work on friendship right now. That doesnt mean stone walling your wife as seems to be advised by some of the posters. Your wife is not in an open affair. If that was the case, perhaps it would be different. But i know my coachbwas recommending friendship, friendship, friendship and often said opposite of what posters here advised.
(I found it hard to follow my db coach cause of my own anger and desire to punish and emotions.)
What was recommended was to not pursue relationahip talks. So i think the concert sounds like a great idea! She agreed to go so keep it light and fun.
I do not think it would be a bad idea to discuss ways that u raise the children. And if communication is a 180 then yeah, makes sense. At the very least you will need it for coparenting in the future.
