Long time reader, first time poster pt.4

[CW2017]

Pew
thank you for coming back to the board. Reacquainting myself with your sitch has been a revelation with what I need to do. Had my second session today with a new IC. She is all about "having the review conversation". We agreed that an appropriate time would be over the Christmas break (there has been little point of late as she is normally too tired to discuss anything).

Every situation is different and nuanced. However I would hope to start mine off by saying "it has been an interesting year". At some point the pain caused to me has to come in. But as Sandi2 indicates, there is little point in designing a conversation that could go in any direction. But in my case I would want to address my own sitch dynamics:
(a) how she feels about "us" (regardless of what is still going on, I have no real way of knowing as I don't check anymore, but there have certainly been pointers, e.g. remaining in contact with OM after many MC ssessions - I did a one off check to confirm this - evidence of new lingerie etc.)
(b) everything appears "normal", close intimacy (in all senses, this is down presumably to cake eating as opposed to temp checking to maintain the plan B status, even though I am plan B), booking next year's holidays etc.
(c) yet at the same time I will have to act once and for all if things suddenly take a turn (of whatever complexion)
(d) the lack of respect for me (clearly) but being oblivious to the disrespect to her family unit (I don't count her livein mother in this equation, just DD)

it is unlikely that all these points would be reflected in the conversation but they have to frame it

all the best