Adjusting to being a LBS....

[Subitai]

Question :

One of my 180's is being more communicative over the kids, and asking her opinion about the kids. Is this conflicting with the no chasing? I'm guessing 'no' because it's kids related and one of the 'pain points'.

Another pain point was me not asking for help/telling her when I was hurting/communicating my emotions. At this point, this seems like it would DEFINITELY be pursuing unless done in a very careful way, specifically relating to the kids. Even then, though, it may be over the line.

My IC has brought up some issues with how I was raised, that I vowed never to repeat (making the kids scared of me like I was scared of my parents because of being beaten with belt) but I see that my anger and words are fulfilling the same purpose as the beatings (which I have never done, nor want to, nor will do), controlling them through anger and fear. I want to address this through my IC, and I REALLY want to talk to her about it. Since it is related to the kids, is this acceptable to talk about? I plan on talking to my IC about it tomorrow, but would like opinions on it.