Gordie, from all that you post, I see you gathering strength and functioning with self-control. That's progress. After BD, we are so desperate we'd do pretty much anything to get things back on track. But I think you have got to a place where you accept this could go either way and you aren't willing to enter into the kind of arrangement on offer.
I also see your W starting to think - oh boy, I may actually have gone to far here and I may actually get what I thought I wanted - and now I'm not that sure what I want. Really I wanted it all and Gordie isn't falling in with that plan - arghh...
So, she is stepping up and trying to reel you in. My guess would be if she reeled you in at this stage, and she felt reassured, she would lose interest. And you would have a rollercoaster ride. From what I have read, the WAS needs to have a pretty seismic and fundamental realisation that pretty much brings them to their knees before a potentially sustainable reconciliation is really possible.
From what you post, your W isn't in that place at all - there is much more an air of entitlement about her. She wants X and Y and is put out that things aren't going to unfold that way.
So, I guess I'm saying that whilst you may worry about pulling further away. This is actually the path to a sustainable reconciliation - which may or may not happen, we just don't know.
Stay strong in any case my friend...xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
