Newbie trying to gain control

[Gordie]

Good to know you aren’t walking on eggshells. You are a better man than me.

Yes, definitely think about confidence and come back with an answer. BD totally deflates confidence. It’s rejection and abandonment and the one you love saying you aren’t good enough, you don’t satisfy me...

Rebuilding confidence is both critical to your own ego / future and is also a cornerstone of sexual attraction between men and women. Part of that confidence is knowing you have a bright future with or without w, confidence that this situation is temporary and will get to the other side, confidence that you are a good man and not all the bad things she said about you and/or you said about yourself.