Not much to update for me after being served divorce papers. I have been GALing so much, I'm actually exhausted. I have, however, stalled on giving the filing to my L. I will be forcing myself to do that today. I have a question that I'm hoping to get some opinions on.
When I met with my L and we did the financial portion, we discussed the house and $ we used for down payment. H had asked FIL for $50K to add to our down. My L told me that I was not entitled to that money because it was a gift to H and I have a gift letter that even though I signed, my name wasn't specifically on it as the recipient. My L said in the response we will acknowledge I am not eligible for this $. This will show we just want to get to an agreed settlement and aren't playing games. At the time, I agreed. However, I am now second-guessing that strategy. After seeing the pathetic attempt at his filing, a few things jumped out at me. One is that once again, I'm going to have to do the heavy lifting for this D and I have no interest. Two, why make this concession of the $50k so soon? Why not wait for him to acknowledge it? I won't fight it, but shouldn't he be doing his due diligence and making his own L aware of what is/isn't his? I also believe from his filing, he is picking and choosing what he reveals in terms of assets and debts. Any bargaining chip I can use, should be kept as long as possible. I know if he gets his hands on that $, it will only go into OWs pockets. I would honestly rather give it back to FIL, if that's the case and because it was for a house we only had a 2 1/2 months pre-BD.
Am I being petty, unethical? Would appreciate any and all thoughts.
Last edited by job; 12/14/1709:37 AM. Reason: added link to previous thread
M:43 H:44 M:10 T:14 S:26 BD:7/21/17 H files for D:7/31/17 (haven't been served) PA:8/30/17
