Well, she never actually talked about divorce or said she wanted that. She did move out for a couple of months and then moved back in prematurely because she missed the kids and could barely afford the apartment she was in. She has also said that she wants space, feels empty inside, she has said that she needs to find herself, and she even said that she didn't want to be married. I haven't initiated any relationship talks recently, so those things are from a month or 2 ago, but then she also says (often in the same conversation) that she wants for things to work out and knows that there are many reasons why we should work it out. I think what she really means is that she wants to want to work it out.
Since moving home 5 months ago, she has calmed down quite a bit and seems to be working on herself. I think that's why this time seems tricky to me. When she was out being wild and living in an apartment and having an EA, although it was hard on me, it was easier to see it as MLC. Now she is back, working on herself and her behavior has calmed down. I also get to see her behave so normally around others, but she is still cold and distant with me (mostly). She does initiate conversations some, but it seems pretty forced on her part. I also see her get confused easy, forget things, have that foggy look in her eye, have trouble sleeping, and play on her phone for hours at a time. So...she isn't out of it yet but she wears it well for public facing.
