Yeah, I don't know what to tell you. I'm a bit jaded. My XW always seemed to have reasonable explanations for the intensity of her "friendship" with the OM.
You know how you always hear the metaphor of the frog that calmly floats in the warm water until the water begins boiling and the frog dies because it never noticed the rising temperature? I was the frog. I kept accepting the little things as being okay until they weren't, and then it was too late.
That is what I am looking for in myself.
she is not escalating though. She will write about a paragraph and he will answer with a sentence or two, sometimes not answering at all. This happens approximately every 2 weeks. It's fairly minimal. I don't see how anything inappropriate can happen at this level. If this was their communication pattern before our troubles then I would never have had any problem with it.
