Hi Sjohn! I realize that you are just now trying to wrap your head around what to do and how to do it. We've all been where you are at some point...and sometimes return to that thinking. Gordie's advice is very good. But this ^ stood out to me. This is the root of your thinking that needs to change as you DB. You don't handle her. You handle you. You can't control her actions, only your actions and your reactions to her actions. It's difficult, but once it becomes a habit, you will hardly have to think about it.
She stays out all night? You show concern...she has your attention (bad or good) and is rewarded by...having your attention, caring, concern. What if you didn't "notice"? What if you only "noticed" her good behavior? And validated it? What if you ignored her when she did something you didn't like? Trust me, that bad behavior in MLC can get surprisingly worse. Practice not being affected by it now and you'll get pretty good at it after awhile (see HaWho's thread). It will make detaching easier. But validating the good behavior, thanking her for nice or considerate behavior, is important, too.
You've got this. Just remember not to "handle her". Handle "it" - the situation. And yourself.
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
