My H often says or does things that give me reason to believe he will survive his MLC and come back to me. Your H is definitely in MLC land as well and he too will eventually come out of the fog and try to find his way home. Whatever is going on now, just 5 months out, will NOT last. Just remember that and you will have the patience and courage to move forward.
Sorry GP (and Hunny), but I have found that thinking like this is detrimental to the whole healing/GAL process. It's nigh on impossible to NOT think it, so I have no real advice for how to stop, but trust me when I say that if you think this is just temporary, and your MLCer is bound to come home, you may well be setting yourself up for some horrible times later, when it doesn't quite turn out as you've dreamed. Please, plan for the worst even if you can't stop hoping for the best.
Originally Posted By: GalPal
P.S. My H is spending money for gifts on his OW too - it's what they have to do so early into this fantasy relationship they have. Don't give it a second thought.
Sigh...
My XH has just bought OW a condo in Bangkok, just short of 2 years after beginning his R with her. I never received that sort of largesse, even though I funded his studies and bore his children. I found out about it last night - made me literally sick to the stomach.
