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[bhappy2]

Update: no new GAL activities because of work limitations. But still hitting the gym 6 days a week. Up coming GAL is volunteering to teach chess at the local library, joining a running club, and book club.

I need some advice, I asked W today if we are exchanging xmas gifts and she said yes of course and asked why? I said well b/c of everything going on I wasn't sure.

Then asked if we are giving the children gifts together, again she said yes. She said she would like to give the older children money and the youngest gets money and gifts. I dont know if I want to do this.

Next problem is that we celebrate xmas at my inlaws every year so I asked her what the plan was and she said she thinks its there this year but wasnt sure b/c her mom wasnt feeling so good. I said ok let me know. I do not think I want to go, please someone advise...

BTW my work hours are 9pm to 5am six days a week and sometimes seven. Plus I have to work from home doing various ppw issues. This is my own business and I would have been financially set in about another 18 months.

I keep reading these boards and I see many guys getting to the point of wanting to file themselves, is it the frustration? I do not seek revenge and I do not want to be vindictive but she will def think b/c I want to fight for whats fair that I am being vindictive.

I look back to so many situations years ago when a female at work would come in and annouce that she was in the process of getting divorced, everyone would lend an open ear and give sympathy. Now I have a better understanding when they would lay the ground work that the H was abusive, then you meet the guy and he is nothing that was explained by the ExW. Funny how these W's have to plant misinfo to reinforce thier WW ways.