Hi G , fantastic to see your post. Well done with getting on with your life. Things do improve and they do so at a faster rate if you move forward. If only some.of the posters had mentioned that to you !!!!!!!!!!!!!! ( 5000 times)
Tough re the younger kids but time will help.. teenagers !!! I have 3 at home + a 22 year old. I think they study laziness at school now and my crew are straight A student's. Still we love them ( mostly ).
Now for the serious business , as Huddy says , Fed , it's Xmas!!!
Stay strong and positive, your life is yours to control and enjoy, do both everyday.