AS, meaning that we could split the finances and the kids and everything else but still remained married knowing full well I would accept her back when she finds out her fantasy life isn't so glamorous anymore! I don't feel that way currently.
Ah, I understand better now. It sounds like you're the one that wants the D and I get it, the same thing happened to me. At some point you want closure and to move on, and while it is "only a piece of paper" on the one hand, it can be closure as well if you are ready for that (which it sounds like you are).
Originally Posted By: dusty70
My W has done this to them and she has shown zero sign of even caring other than what she is doing! She is scheduled to move out on the 21st! 4 days before Christmas, I don't get it, guess I never will.
It is really, really tough on the kids, no question. But try not to assign blame, she is still their mom and they are very confused and upset right now. The last thing a kid wants to hear is one of their parents talking trash about the other (boy do I remember that hell all too well from when I was a kid). So try to support them, and if they start speaking negatively of their mom then try not to feed into it, but help remind them of her good characteristics. I know that is extremely tough to do feeling the way you do right now but it is the right thing for the kids.
Originally Posted By: dusty70
I got home last night and she was a completely different person, acting nice and talking to me about some Xmas presents for the kids and paying bills. Don't think I will ever understand what happened to her, don't really care too much, just want to make sure she will do her job as mom!
I've talked about this on the forums before, but often the WAS will be mean/ angry towards the LBS because they actually think that's a good way to help the LBS move on. At some point when the pressure is removed they no longer feel the need to be ugly and they drop it. It may have taken D for her to see that it'll be over soon and drop the mean girl act.
Originally Posted By: dusty70
Now the bad, I don't have anyone to share this great news with. My W would have been out of this world happy for me and us!
And what are we, chopped liver? Congrats, that's awesome news!!
Congrats, that's awesome news!!