Thank you for the support and very kind words from all the advice I get. None of you will ever know how appreciative I am for being able to share my life with you.
A little update, we were in court yesterday and everything was going fine, we came to some sort of agreement on the kids, possessions and then we started talking money/debt to be exact. We agreed for the most part on who is going to pay what, that's when my W blew her top! She started accusing me of hiding money(my lawyer has all my bank records) and buying things for myself and not putting the kids first. She told her lawyer that our kids will now have an F'ning horrible Xmas because we can't buy gifts and so on..... The anger in her eyes actually had me concerned, I have never in 25 years seen this much anger out of her. I just sat back and let her vent, then her lawyer got in the mix and I had to defend myself, I will not be disrespected anymore as I have let this happen for far too long. I actually felt real good after knowing that my decision to detach and act as if I am moving on was the right decision.
My W then had to go in front of the judge and be sworn in to agree on the grounds for divorce and agree to the final day. She was crying while doing this and I had to walk out as I didn't need to be there. I got home last night and she was a completely different person, acting nice and talking to me about some Xmas presents for the kids and paying bills. Don't think I will ever understand what happened to her, don't really care too much, just want to make sure she will do her job as mom!
So, now I just got some real good news from work. My boss who has been unbelievably supportive of me through all this allowing me to take time off of work without using vacation days just presented me with a large pay raise!! It was a surprise as I have not been a good employee this year. THis raise will make way more comfortable financially, still need to make some cut backs but I won't be month to month keeping the home! Now the bad, I don't have anyone to share this great news with. My W would have been out of this world happy for me and us!
