She is something else! To come into your room this morning after that discussion last night, hug you and say I love you, just confirms to me that she's a mess and either isn't listening to what you said or she thinks you are bluffing and won't file. She doesn't realize that it only takes one to set the divorce in motion and go from there.
If you can control your emotions and not allow the situation to get you to the point of shouting, you might, and I mean might, be able to get her to "hear you" better if you can go somewhere quiet and talk to her in a calm, even tone...but this woman isn't ready to give up on you or her fun side. But...I do think you've been more than honest and fair with her all along. Now, you have to put your focus on you and your children and what you need to do to find that inner peace and be able to move forward. People say all of the time that the divorce decree is nothing more than a piece of paper and that is so true...but the bottom line is this...it may be a piece of paper, but time can and will change things including how we view our spouses and while they are circling the earth, we may discover that we don't like the people that they've turned into and may find someone new who is more apt to be better companions to us. Time will tell...but Gordie, you do what you must to keep your sanity.
You've stated quite firmly what you will and will not tolerate, time will tell if any of that conversation has sunk in. In the meantime...continue to move forward...you've got a lot of life to live and whether she wakes up, wants to reconcile or you want to move on completely...the final decision will be all yours.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
