Yeah good points everyone. I just want to make it clear that I am not going down the road where W and I become 'friends'. If that happens like ten years down the line, that's a different story. But, for now, that is not an acceptable situation to me.
Like J, I am trying to walk a fine line with this as there is no confirmed OM. Since I saw her the other day, I haven't pursued or followed up on anything, except her text which I acknowledged. I've left it in her court and I am still continuing my DB path and focusing on myself.
I am trying to accomplish two things - being my authentic self that only a fool would leave; and, keeping the path safe and clear if she wants a way back. This doesn't mean that if she shows genuine signs of recon that I'll just take her back. There's a lot of work to do if that happens.
I just want to get over the anger and bitterness and learn how to manage some semblance of a relationship with someone who I have to co-parent with. It's good for the kids if we are in the same room and we can just be relaxed.
I am not trying to nice my way back in because it doesn't work and it's not my MO any more. I am working had to shed the NGS nonsense and this is part of it. I will only do what is comfortable for me and keep emotions in check and expectations at sub zero levels.
