You are one tough cookie (!) to have handled a looming-over your=head D with W the way you did.
I have mixed feelings re: before/after Christmas - but then again its rarely a 'real' christmas with mlc spouses anyway.
Follow your gut - I think it is guiding you very, very well! Best
pbetra ---- M: 15 yrs (in 2014) BD: 6/03/2014 Infidelity ('known' from July 2014) Denied PA Feb 2015 2 leave Mar 2015 (left early Summer). Some contact. Back briefly 2017 (after family death) Separated 2017