What should I be doing now? (It's done)

[Coconut]

Last weekend my buddy had a Christmas party at his Ranch, it was a pretty good group of people, some friends, neighbors, some people who go to the Ranch for horse back riding lessons or board their horses there. Anyway, I always enjoy going to their party's because they are filled with native North Carolinians, I live in a city where everyone is from somewhere else and came here for military, but up in his area it's mostly farmers, ranchers, etc. I really enjoy talking to them, and most of them are great story tellers and because of what they do for a living, generally have some great stories.

But anyway, I ran into my old friend from high school, the one that became friends with my ex and was the only friend of hers that supported the A... I had really dreaded when I heard she was moving to NC, I just don't / didn't want her in my life. Anyway, I saw her around the party a couple of times, she didn't try and talk to me and I didn't acknowledge her, which was easy for the most part as there were a lot of people there. But towards the end of the night, it was down to just about 8 of us, and it became a little awkward, and I'm not really sure how I want to handle it. I have no interest in being friends with her, I'm not interested in anything she has to say, but I don't want to make it awkward for my buddy either, or make them have to choose "which" friend to invite over, etc. It just feels wrong to even have small talk with someone who I don't like or respect.


Today's my birthday so of course I'm getting a lot of calls, texts and facebook messages wishing me a happy bday.. and the STBXW texts and says:

"Happy Birthday. I'm sure you don't want to hear from me but I took son skydiving for his birthday & I wanted to send you some of the photos from his jump." and then sends me some pictures of him skydiving.

I replied "cool, he must of loved that", and she replied "He absolutely loved it. That's what he wanted for his 18th so I took him"... end of text.

Now, his birthday was two weeks ago, so I have to imagine that they didn't go sky diving today or yesterday, so I got a little frustrated that she waited to send the pics until my birthday.

Her birthday was 1 week ago, and while I did realize it, I certainly didn't acknowledge it. She could have sent those pics at anytime, but she waited to my birthday (and I'm assuming) so she could wish me a happy birthday.

The thought of her trying to play nice with me, for whatever reason, makes me sick. I do NOT want her in my life at all, I have no interest in trying to work things out and I don't want to be friends with her. At some point, I hope to be able to be in the vicinity of her without it being awkward (like at my sons graduation, or wedding, or whatever), but that's not something I'm trying to work on right now.

I'm starting to realize that I don't know how to treat people in my life that I don't necessarily like. Usually, if I don't like you, I just erase you from my life.. But now I have two people that would require me avoiding my best friend or my son to erase from my life, and I'm not willing to make that sacrifice for either of them.