I get that is is a marathon. I get it. I don't feel like I have much time. D has been filed.
Joe,
D takes along time. Mine is 9 months and counting. Stop and take a deep breath. Right now you really can't do anything to make it better you can only make it worse.
Also, there are no rules that say you cant remarry after you are divorced.
One thing that helped me put my divorce into perspective was understanding that the actual act of divorce was only a piece of paper. All it does is report the status of my relationship to the government.
On BD, my ex ended the relationship. I didnt 'run out of time' when the paperwork was finally signed several months later.
You have nothing but time. Ultimately, you get to decide when the relationship is over for you.
