Gordie #14: the end of my M to MLC W, I think

[AndrewP]

My 2 cents - and considering the exchange rate posted this morning - might not be worth much.

Do I tell her that I am moving out or do I just do it?

No advance notice to her - That's just a recipe to up the drama.

Am I making an emotional decision based upon recent events?

The decision was made some time ago - it's now just a question of timing.

Now with that all said - the actual physical logistics of moving are a challenge that you might not be able to achieve between now and the New Year. You seem like a capable, planning type of guy but do you actually have all of the pieces in place to make this happen in a short period of time? I suspect that the answer is no.

Even though you don't specifically fall into that category, I would suggest you read up on some of the resources available to people in abusive relationships that advise them on how to plan and execute a move on the quiet. A key thing is making sure you have copies of all important documents in a secure location. Important heirlooms need to be protected. You'll need a crew of guys and trucks that can make things happen quickly without a fuss. You'll want to be sure to catalogue each and every item you take and any of the valuable ones you leave behind.

An important question I was thinking on earlier for you and it relates to the timing. What about the kids? In a typical move of this sort, the leaving spouse takes the kids with them.

To quote a line from one of my most favourite movies - Amazing Grace starring Ioan Gruffudd - "You've got work to do".