M - My approach has been friendly and upbeat when I am around her. I still do not initiate conversation via text message or email unless it is kid related or money. I have not stopped doing that. When I am around her we will joke some, engage in some small chit-chat but nothing in-depth or serious, very surface level discussions. I have been inside her apartment a few times picking up the kids, etc but for never more than 5 minutes or so. I still don't linger. I have loosened up some and so has she. For example, when she picked up the kids on Sunday she came to the door and I motioned for her to come in. 3 months ago she would have knocked and waited for me to let her in. She was wound pretty tight.
My W has not confided in me emotionally, she has reached out a couple of times for my assistance on a couple of things but it was obvious that she had tried very hard on her own without having to call me. Very early on she wanted me to come over and help her with her smoke alarm however I declined and told her to call maintenance. Since then I do know she has been very careful about what to ask me for.
I guess I would just be careful of doing too much hanging out, lingering etc. unless it is centered around the kids.
Good for you! I played basketball this am and sat around afterwards for 20 min or chatting with the guys.
