Doesn’t it continue to amaze you the way WW continue to act! Just when you thought you’d seen and heard it all BANG something new crops up, so frustrating…
I was in your position with the total lack of respect I was receiving from my WW but luckily I am unaware of how far or how weird their R as gone and its basically due to me making the most difficult decision to move out of the family home. Please be assured it was not a move I took lightly as I left behind both of my sons BUT almost instantly I found myself off the ride…
Now I know people will say I did the wrong thing and allowed her to introduce the AP into “our” world without any resistance but again I was not willing to stand by and be systematically taken apart whilst allowing my boys to suffer her extremely toxic attitude towards our M and in fact to a degree the hindrance of our children NOT allowing her the freedom to continue her hedonistic ways. I’ll ask you a question, if I had stayed would this have caused her to stop her A? < Sandi..?
Initially I did "ask" her to move out and in with her AP but there was NO CHANCE this was going to happen so took the decision to get away from her to save mine and that of my boys sanity.
The comment about her covering up I bet she doesn’t mind if you don’t cover up? You see it’s all about her, her selfishness has no limits and you need to be aware YOU DON’T EXIST IN THEIR WORLD at this moment in time. If you are wanting to regain your M back and are willing to go through this type of exposure then more credit to you, I was not and to be honest it has allowed me to find the focus to concentrate on my own situation! I have also found peace away from their madness but do regret having to allow my boys watch their R pan out in front of them.
Sandi is right (as always) regarding her feeling like betraying her AP if she didn’t cover up, I have seen this time and time again even now with the push-backs I receive IF there is anything close to old feelings/attitudes raised through our interactions and can basically predict “we should start the D proceedings” conversations or the no shows for a week due to these events!
We mention here detachment I have no idea how you can detach whilst in the same house! For me that’s quite difficult especially when the WW is in the infatuation stage of her A, you’re just in the way and she’ll tell you or show you either way not good for the BS or their children for that matter.
I have preached on here detachment but being smart about it, remaining open to her and listening when she wants to talk also allowing her to vent her frustrations to you but with strong boundaries. < This I suggest you look into, learn about the boundaries you can ENFORCE and remove the madness from your life, it will give you focus to better see your situation and manage your goals on RC your M if that’s what you want or alternatively able to survive with or without your WW.
Be strong and get off the ride.
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
