I don't have time to reply Gordie, but you are in good hands and doing very good.

Best wishes.

Use the anger you felt when they appeared in your driveway to move forward on your own. That has to be your focus and aim for now

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together