I've noticed a few things lately and wonder if any of you notice/noticed the same kind of things at the beginning of the MLC craziness.

H looks older. His hair does seem to be thinning now, it wasn't before but it is now. He looks like he is gaining weight. I spend my time thinking he is out with OW having a ball only to find out he is sick...again. He has been sick more times in the last few months than he has been in the last five years. The depression and anxiety are still around too. So it seems he is now actually turning into what he might have been afraid he was going to turn into. It's like he started them ball rolling and now he is as pitiful as he wrongly thought he was when this started.

There were several events recently that he had wanted to do. In fact he (we)had been planning them for quite some time. The only difference would have been OW would have been with him. Well turns out he has only been able to do one of them and from what I have been told he said it was miserable. A total waste of money and he didn't have any fun. As for all the other events, he was either too sick to go or had an anxiety issue.

So I spent my time with my H when he was an occasionally grumpy smile but otherwise healthy, happy, fun loving man who was always the guy everyone wanted to be around. OW is spending her time with a horrible version of him. Angry, depressed, borderline mean, tired, constantly freaking out, sick, job falling apart, mess of a man.

Is this the way it goes? Do the MLCers turn into exactly what they feared?

Hunny