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Thanks for dropping in, I really appreciate the barbed wire. And you are spot on, I have been too nice. The reason I cam back home to to save the house she wasn’t paying on, and to make sure my kids had food and light. She paid next to nothing all summer. I have spiraled a lot during the cluster f that has been the last few months. Only in the last few weeks have I come to a place where I have started to detach and care less each week about who she’s talking to or about OM. I was a one point going to ruin him by turning him in to the military, but didn’t. Then other failed plans . I took advice , great advice and ignored it. Now I listen. Some changes have taken place, she has stopped facetiming him, hasn’t since day before thanksgiving. No calls that I’m aware of. She doesn’t take the walks anymore. Been super nice and chatty about my day her day, very concerned with who I’m talking to because I’m on the phone texting a lot. It’s only conworkers and subordinates, but she has no idea. I go out and she’s wondering where I’m going, and withwho. When I go to bed I message my brother for a little and I notice she pops on and right back off. The other night while Christmas shopping it was all next year we this we that. She’s acting like she was last December when there was no A. I don’t react much to this anymore. Just keep it civil and go on. My friends think they may have broken up when she told OM that she would have to move in with him after the D with the kids. ( her plan) and it spooked him. I do know several trinkets and a perfume he bought her that she had out arengone now. I don’t know or do I worry about it anymore. I have been doing things I haven’t done in a long time and really enjoy it. After the holidays I am retaking the MBR and getting rid of her sex toy. I have a problem with them being in my house and used when there is a perfectly good me here, and frankly I don’t want her getting off in our bed possibly thinking of him while ahes using it. I’m slowly working my way out of the fog. Just gonna take some patience and perseverance. Any thoughts ideas or whacks to the cabeza are very welcome!