Husband gone for second time - new here

[PsySara]

The key to DBing is moving forward, spiritually, emotionally and psychologically, sometimes physically too. This can do two things, move you to a place where you don't actually want the WS or it can make the WS realize you are moving on without them and be the wake up call necessary for them to get to the root of their own dysfunction and reconcile.

You are moving forward, your WS appears to be cake eating and using you for plan B. I suspect when you move it will shock him into action. The tricky part (mistake I made) was to instantly let them back in without boundaries. It always easier to start from scratch and build things right rather than try to rebuild on the same foundation. So blow this popcicle stand and start looking through the classifieds, put your resume out there on the interwebs and greasing the wheel! A lot of companies will do interviews through webcam and don't require in person.