Just to give 100% disclosure here, everything is fantastic but I do struggle with making the R permanent
That's understandable. Just thinking about a new R and making it permanent looks like horror movie to me right now. I was just commenting on you finding contentment after the abyss. That's definitely something to aspire for.
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Then my scale broke and ignorance was bliss, hahahaha!
LOL! That's precisely why I just bought a new scale because I knew I had lost weight, just didn't know how much. The old scale got lost during the separation process somewhere.
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Well you know we always say you can't "nice" her back, but I firmly believe you have even less of a chance to "mean" her back, LOL! I think you've got to strike a balance. You don't want to fawn all over her and be Plan B, but you definitely don't want to be cold/ indifferent/ uncaring either. Friendly neighbor is the best approach I think. Benito was/ is a master at it and it really paid off in his sitch.
Yeah I am realizing that I need to strike a balance. I am pretty black and white with this stuff and upon reflection I think that the last month or so I have probably come across as cold and uncaring. Certainly not the image that I want to project. I think I was just struggling to be around her in the last two weeks and so it's not been the greatest. But, I am in a better mindset now and I don't want to fulfill her prediction of me being angry and hateful etc. Obviously if there is an OM confirmed at any point, then that throws this out of the window.
I will have to channel my inner Benito and be that friendly neighbor without being overly enthusiastic and turning into Plan B. Plus I look much hotter now than a few months back with the weight loss and new haircut and getting my muscles more jacked up
