Where are your other posts? Can you give us some marital history?
I had the other thread deleted. WaW knows about the book, (she asked me what I was reading when I mentioned I was working on myself with IC and self help books when talking together with a C. I wasn't going to lie about it, so I told her.) and I didn't want my raw posts laying around for her to see if she stumbles across the forums.
Me: Mid 40s W : Early 40s M:11 T:13 S, D, both 7-10 BD : 11/2017 Separation : 1/18