Adjusting to being a LBS....

[Subitai]

I'm applying the LRT and 180s in an attempt to get myself better with where this is heading as fast as possible.


Sleeping in same bed. We still say "ILY" to each other.

How are you applying LRT if you are still saying "I love you" to her?!?

I'm still getting there. Mainly, LRT is me working on getting the divorce stuff organized with her, giving her space, making space for myself. I am barely a month out from the BD, so I'm still climbing out of the hole. We don't say that to each other every day, only when we get into a big discussion on what we're going to be doing/saying to family/etc.

We don't have an inciting incident, no EA, PA, abuse, etc, so there is not a lot of fighting and recriminations thrown. She has told me that she doesn't want to talk about her feelings because she doesn't want to hurt me more and make me feel bad about how I made her feel. So we are nowhere near any kind of Recon, so I have to focus on making what we're doing successful.