Hoosjim's 9th: WW, A ended(?); "All-in" or not?

[hoosjim]

i highly doubt her gift to him will outshine his gift to her...

Well, I mean that's really the issue, now, isn't it?

I know at this point based on her hints that she's at least getting me a very nice pair of leather boots I've been looking at... think they're $300 a pair. This is a step up from where we were back in September, where we didn't get each other anything for the anniversary and we actually spoke about it before hand... me telling her it didn't necessarily feel right under the circumstances celebrating the anniversary of our "old" marriage, and since we were only a few weeks into her "recovery" even though I thought we should mark the occasion by going out (which we did.) We didn't get each other any gifts, then. Her bff apparently thought I was punk for doing so because "at that point we were at he should've had something planned." Whatever.

On my birthday back in April, she gave me a gift card, but nothing else. I had the kids get her something for her May birthday, but I did not, as she was at that was a pretty tumultuous point and A was still going on.

Now, she seems to be shaking off her usual holiday funk. Last weekend I went out and spent a lot of time getting some new lights and then putting them all around the house so the place would look real nice when S19 got back from college this Friday He told me a few weeks back that he really liked it when he came back from wherever and saw the house all lit up with lights-- which we have done fairly frequently though not every year since he was little. I've also just been in a good mood lately-- feeling the spirit of the season-- whistling, singing, etc. Then, yesterday, W became real energized and started dragging out our boxes of Christmas stuff to put around the house, looking through and bringing out old Christmas photos, and seeming pretty happy about it. So, a bit of a change from the last few years for her when the holidays have been a really down time. She's also had opportunity to drag out our old wedding pics due to a project her sister is doing for their parents for Christmas-- making a photo album for their folks. This didn't seem to bother her and she seemed okay with it, even showing me a couple.

So, anyway, yeah... her head is still, idunno. Not sure as we all know on the "commitment to fixing the MR" thing-- though this is certain to be discussed in counseling this week. (As an aside in this regard--she called me today and wants to set up a double date for us and another couple that she knows this weekend-- was asking me if I knew where any good bands were playing since I have been doing a lot of that in recent months) That said, she seems significantly to somewhat more "into" the season this year, including in terms of gift giving. I just want to make sure I am giving that the appropriate level of attention from my end under the circumstances.