Thanks for being a voice of reason. No, she is not ready to R. And I hadn’t considered the holiday effect on her. I just sense things shifting and not sure how to handle it. Not believing what she says but here are the observations from the last two weeks:
No overnight outings
No child outings with OM2
Refusing to sign the D papers
Asking us to move back in together
Asking me to talk and spend time with her
One of you asked how long could I keep this up because she could keep this up for a long time. That’s a really good question and I’m struggling with how to answer it.
Several of you pointed out that she’s trying to reel me back in. Yes, she has her hook firmly planted in my mouth and is pulling. Artista and Sandi2 both pointed to a phase where they were still involved with their OM at some level but also playing their Hs. Sadly, I think this is where I am.
Some days I want to rip my hair out and scream “I can’t live like this anymore!” Other days I am too busy with my own life to bother with her shenanigans—those are the days I have some semblance of peace.
Scheduled another coaching session to get some additional advice.
Thanks to all for being so supportive.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
