Husband gone for second time - new here

[Caz49]

Just a little add on...I feel I didn't stand up for myself enough. I did ask for what I wanted but maybe I wasn't clear enough. My IC says I was clear enough, and people like us go through feelings of guilt, because we are nice people.

I sometimes wish I could be more like my H, and not feel so strongly or care so much...and then I realise that hey, I like being a caring person, I like being nice. Maybe I should just be a little more demanding in the future though. I need to be stronger when I need something or want something.

This is how being with someone like my H makes me feel...unbalanced, off kilter and not capable of relying on my intuition. But I've recognised it and am working on it.