Cherry. Getting on with a few bumps

[Cherry]

Nicole, i honestly feel we are talking about the same man. My mil called him once to tell him our S was crying for him and that was his exact same response. I too can’t believe how they can prioritise anything over these absolute blessings. And as for the whole “don’t make me feel bad”, I’m honestly not sure anything can do.

There has been a few men he once respected who have told him he is being an idiot and making a mistake, but he pays no attention. He is an impressive liar these days, so lord knows what he tells them. A good friend who he truly respects has gotten wind of our situation and repeatedly tells him what a mistake he is making (he’s been there and done it, so learnt the hard way). Still he is set in his mind. Like your husband, it is complete personality transplant of someone who doted on me and i believed we had the perfect marriage.
I truly don’t think you could have done anything to prevent it. Granted we all have areas we think we could have done differently, but marriage is a compromise and growth of two people. And from what I’ve read, you have stood by and took a lot. Forgiven him in order to keep your family together. Just like i did. Sometimes it’s almost as though they cannot live with the guilt, and we are a subtle reminder of the pain they’ve caused us and the shoddy decisions.