Ok folks,
I brought up my "emotional state" and "held on" ok. I think the thing that really bugged me about this situation is the fact that the guy had said some terribly hurtful things to her last time and she swore she never wanted to talk to him again. It was painful to see her violate herself so bad. We both tried to talk her out of going over to his place and my W even used a "if your daughter was treated bad, would you encourage her to.....". Sorry to be wasting time on her...I'll get back to me in a second. I told her that once naked, she needs to grab onto his nuts with a firm grip, whisper in his ear "...if you want this to go any further, I need an apology right now".

Ok, back to me.

In the midst of my discussion with my W later that evening, I told W I was also irritated by the fact that this neighbor could "have sex whenever she wanted, and that it reminds me of the fact that I have virtually no control over my sex life". Ok, that was a shot fired across the bow and maybe not the right thing to say, but hey, I was feeling that way and I was pretty fearless about it...bygones. W quickly retorted "you do" (have control) and I said "how?" and she said "I'm not even going to entertain this discussion and walked upstairs to take her shower. I went up and read PM (the infamous chapter 11).

When she got out of the shower, I didn't push the subject because it was simply too late at night to engage. She said "I was thinking...maybe I shouldn't have invited <divorced friend> to come over". I replied "I have no problem with her coming over. I like her company usually. It's just that tonight she was bugging the crap out of me." She replied "oh, I though you were mad at me for something". And finally "It's not about you...I can feel irritated". Now this board unfortunately doesn't do justice to the intonation and subtleties of an argument. It was much "quieter and calm" than I'm making it sound here. Anyway, I didn't have any desire to make her more calm or receive any validation or any comfort from her. Like playing baseball, I was simply "pitching" my feelings without holding up my glove to catch anything (maybe I covered my nuts to protect them from getting hit...just kidding). So I got up and kept reading chapt. 11. I also drafted some ideas of what I want to talk about in C. Like when Peter (from PM) finally told Audry to "sh!t or get off the pot", I drafted a statement like that which is designed to give her a 2 choice dilemma. I'm not ready to pull this one out yet and I'm even hesitant to share it here right now.

Anyway, this morning she came over to my side of the bed, snuggled up really closely, rub her hand on my bum and I turned myself just so slightly to encourage a grope and she gave me about a minute of touching on mr. happy. Note that it's her period right now so I knew nothing would come of it. Plus, her mother is in our house this weekend...double whammy.

Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time -Steven Wright